In fact, they tended to divorce quicker than those with short courtships.Again, there are a couple of reasons why taking too long is a bad sign: It’s not so much that people wait too long to get married, but that they stay in a relationship that never was built to last. We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.He said he’s not worried, that if we move in together, he’s sure we’ll stay together, like it’s a forever thing.
Also, the time we do spend together, my boyfriend doesn't feel like or doesn't have the desire to do anything besides sit at home and watch movies together. He used to go absolutely crazy for me, and literally wherever we could, we would have sex. My boy-friend and I are 37 and 29 and we have been together for 3 years. Do this even if you are in different states or countries. Saying “I love you” doesn't deepen a connection unless it’s accompanied by actions.He’s been working on it for more than 2 years so I don’t know if that’s also a factor in why he’s reluctant to move forward.We almost never fight, but when we do it’s always about the bigger issue: our future together. I’ve told him that I’ll wait and believe he’ll be worth it.Assessing a New Relationship Assessing an Established Relationship Evaluating a Committed Relationship Community Q&A Most relationships go through distinct stages, each one with different challenges and characteristics.You might not pass through each stage or each step in your relationship.